Recently I've found that many people (including myslef in the past, but never realized that) have a problem which is related to doing things "perfectly". This may be caused by some sort of Ne/Fi loop where basically somebody goes through the following steps when wanting to do any sort of "chore" or "task" * Note: I use these words, as they are commonly used, and they also contribute with their negative connotation to the problem)
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- Wanting to do something (sometimes they don't even get to this point, because of last step of the loop)
- Thinking about how to do it and finding many (some imaginary) steps and problems with it
- Thinking about the steps and problems of the steps
- Realizing that doing this task requires a lot of steps and there may be problems along the way (again, some imaginary or very low likely)
- Realizing that instead of starting to do the thing it's better to just do nothing, as to avoid the failure of the potential N->oo problems that may arise which may cause the feeling of "bad/incapable"
- The brain develops the habit of not starting anything and defaults to this for any task
- (Optional) Some high achievers or simply people that have some sort of compass about their life and some level of intelligence, but are stuck in this, will partially solve this issue in deadline-induced situations (learn 1 day beforehand all the course, finish all the homework in 3 hours, do everything on last minute...)
- This develops a habit of no organization, letting things on the last second and "winging it"
A personal solution :
- The idea comes from the fact that much easier for the person with good habits to do regular tasks
- However, people stuck in this loop will usually have really bad "XP" (as Dr.K puts it) due to doing almost nothing ever
- My solution is boost leveling up: instead of going the "safe" route, you will "farm" everything at any step. While this may be energy-inefficient, there are a lot of benefits to it
- Basically, instead of planning and planning and thinking about steps and problems and so on, you think VERY LITTLE (up to depth 1-2) about what you want to do, even little things (going to get food, writing a blog post).
- You then pick one without thinkig about ANY problems or even steps further than the next step (marathon thinking)
- To further motivate yourself, think about how nice it'd feel to have the thing done (black box approach, don't think about steps too far ahead)
- Give youself positive feedback:
- At time X or after X minutes/hours of working on the thing, you get a reward (let's say you eat 1 bar of chocolate) => don't overdo it though
- Take small breaks and think about where you were at start and where you are now
- It's about the perspective => try to feel good about where you are/what you do and be positive and thankful for what you are given (stoicism thinking).
Never do 1 thing only and don't try to finish it from start to end in the same day/timeframe. This leads to frustration and lack of motivation to try new things as it'll seem like it's so much * Whenever something starts to feel chory, close that thing (for now, so put it somewhere where it's annoying to look at it so you will remember to restart it other time/day). This is easier in programming tasks, but can be done even in physical chores (i.e. folding the first half of the clothes, taking a break for a coffee and read a random news, then finishing the rest half. After you are done, give yourself 5-10 minutes to listen to some song in peace/eat something etc.) .
Random finishing thoughts
- Motivation comes from within => never let others/the medium influence your decision
- It's much easier for the person with good habits to do regular tasks
- Fake Deadline-induced => todo lists
- It's much better to finish 20 out of 100 things (and even only 5 of these up to some random criteria you hold) than to finish 1 thing "perfectly". 20>1.
- Marathon thinking => only look 1-2 steps ahead, NEVER at how long the rest of the route is because this leads to demotivation
- Always doing your best is a positive reinforcement on itself. I feel so much better having done something where I tried my personal best and failed than something where I half-assed it and finished it.
- Doing this "start fast and without overthinking way", even if inefficient, builds good habits and when you are ready to move on and actual be a bit more "picky" about your tasks, you will see how easy they are since you have trained yourself doing inefficient/unplanned things all this time.
- On stoicism thinking: A friend of mine gave me this insight: he's a ultra marathon runner and is always thankful that he can do what he does thinking about people who are unable to do the same thing due to injuries or other physical problems.
- Trick your brain as much as you can, he's not here to help you, just to stop you from achieving stuff (The idiot brain book)
TL;DR :
- Don't overthink tasks, the starting part is the hardest
- Always look only 1-2 steps ahead, define where you are and where you want to go and focus ONLY on that thing. After you are done with it, look at next 1-2 steps.
- Reinforce yourself with good thinking and focusing what you've achieved instead of what is left to be done.